A Dating Reality
Blogger Natasha Tracy has bipolar disorder type-II (rapid-cycling), and has noticed that the most common pattern in relationships is fear in terms of what her condition could do to the other person, or to the relationship.
I’m always scared people will leave me because of it,” she said. “It has happened in the past that people have left me quoting the reason ‘bipolar.’”
Her condition affects so much of her life that she tells anyone new she meets about it pretty quickly.
“In fact, it’s almost impossible for me not to. The way my life revolves around
bipolar disorder symptoms, medications, side effects, and just general
coping, not mentioning it is like cropping out half my life,” Tracy said. “Additionally, I would much rather know that the person can’t handle it up front. If they can’t handle that I’m sick, they’re not the person for me and it’s best I find that out as soon as possible.”
The process of dating has had its share of heartbreak, and Tracy learned some pretty stark realities about her condition—that others may use it to their advantage by using her bipolar disorder against her. Still, Tracy is hopeful that she will find someone who can offer her the right kind of support, the kind that everyone needs.
“The best thing a person can do for me is provide loving support. It is best if they can be there, listen and share a hug,” she said. “Unfortunately, the person can never ‘fix’ my illness but by being there in a kind and loving way, they are helping me more than I can express.”