Maintaining Relationships with Bipolar

We all know every couple has day-to-day challenges, but when bipolar disorder comes into a relationship many people start to wonder if theirs is strong enough to survive.

Existing Relationships

Bipolar disorder doesn't affect just the person diagnosed; it affects their spouse or partner, as well as their family, friends and co-workers. To help weather some of the difficulty that will arise there are a few things couples can do to make some of the lows and highs a little more manageable.

• Accurate Diagnosis — An important first step is to get an accurate diagnosis so both of you know just what you're dealing with. The more you know the better you will be able to handle what will be thrown at you.
• Begin Treatment — Consult with your medical provider to determine the best course of treatment to follow. Once that's determined make sure both of you know what that treatment is and stick to it.
• Involve Your Partner — The more a partner knows and understands about bipolar disorder, the medications and trigger points the better they will be at helping with the lows, highs and everywhere in between. In fact, many have said being involved with some of the counseling sessions and treatment discussions helped to bring them closer since everything was out in the open and they both knew what to expect.
• Plan Ahead — There will be times when a large majority of attention will be focused on the person coping with bipolar disorder. At these times it's wise to have a plan set up for the care of children or others that also need attention. Predetermining as many options as possible for periods of financial instability will also help reduce stress during these times. Discuss options with family members, close friends and trusted people close to you so plans can be implemented quickly.
• Care For the Caregiver — As with many illnesses, much of the attention is focused on the person coping with the disease or disorder. The caregiver is often overlooked and they start to develop feelings of being neglected and overburdened and feel like his or her own identity and needs are being ignored or forgotten. It's important for the caregiver to maintain as much of a personal life as possible and not let the illness overshadow them. Talk to a counselor on ways to maintain a spouse's individual needs while still being able to offer support and love.

New Relationships

If you're still looking for that special someone, bipolar disorder may seem to you like a deal breaker. But finding love can still be in the cards with a little forethought.

Being honest with someone is the key to any healthy and happy relationship. Keeping your disorder a secret isn't an option since it's something you can't hide long term. However, bringing it up on your first date may not make the best impression. A number of people with bipolar disorder have suggested that when things start to feel like they are progressing and you want to get more involved with this person then that is the time to open up. Each person and relationship is different, so talk to your counselor about your individual situation if you're not sure when the right time is.

Just as it took you awhile to understand about bipolar disorder, it will take time for someone else. Many people don't understand this disorder so odd questions may be asked. Don't take offense but be understanding and answer questions honestly.