Looking for Love: Top HIV Dating Sites
It’s Time to Date Again
Finding the right footing in the dating scene can be difficult for anyone. However, a positive HIV diagnosis can complicate things further. Dating with HIV requires complete honesty about an issue that can be hard to talk about. It also requires a certain level of disclosure before any sexual act.
Several online organizations are dedicated to helping HIV positive individuals get a good start. Click through the slideshows for a rundown on some of the top HIV dating sites.
Poz.com is dedicated to helping HIV-positive individuals. In addition to areas for making connections and dating, Poz.com offers community forums, mentoring, and medical information.
A basic membership is free and allows you to see other members’ profiles, share up to five photos, and track who’s looked at your profile. Premium memberships begin at $9.99 per month and allow you greater control.
Poz Personals frequently features advice from members going through various stages of dating.
Afropoz isn’t exclusively for people with an HIV diagnosis. Afropoz encourages Africans and African Americans with other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) to sign up for their matchmaking services and join the community.
A basic membership is free, but the site will contain ads and links. You can upgrade to an ad-free account for a fee. Non-members can search photos of users, but you must create an account before you can contact a member.
Founded in 1988, PozMatch is owned and run by HIV-positive individuals, and is open to all those living with HIV.
Basic membership is free and includes a profile, five photos, browsing, searching, and instant messaging, among other things. A premium membership includes all the features of a basic membership plus email, webcam and video, and support services.
PozMatch isn’t just for romantic relationships. It also helps connect those looking for friendships.
HIV and Single
HIV and Single provides forums and resources for staying up-to-date on the latest in HIV research and treatment. It’s designed for HIV-positive individuals and allows members to identify as transgender.
You can create a profile, add photos, and search for and flirt with members for free. One month of the premium membership costs $9.99. It includes instant messaging, email capabilities, cell phone messaging options, and access to community forums.
The site also offers dating safety tips for those who are new to or apprehensive about online dating.
Volttage Dating and Social Network
Volttage.com is the first website created exclusively for HIV-positive gay men. Model, Project Runway contestant, and AIDS activist Jack Mackenroth masterminded the site. It launched in 2012.
Profiles on Volttage are free. According to Mackenroth, who is HIV positive himself, the site doesn’t ask members to declare an HIV status. Volttage believes everyone should always assume that their partner is positive and proceed accordingly.
More than just a dating site, Volttage is a full social network with HIV-related news, health information from a staff physician, and a blog called "Volttage Buzz."
Dating with HIV
There are two important things to keep in mind when you begin dating:
1. Disclose your status. If your partner doesn’t know, you may wish to disclose this information on your first date. Or, you may prefer to wait until you know the relationship has potential. Either way, do so responsibly: before first sexual contact.
2. Practice safe sex. Even if you and your partner are both HIV positive, you don’t necessarily share other STIs. Use protection during all sexual contact until both of you test negative for STIs and agree to be monogamous.
HIV isn’t the death sentence it was 10 years ago. Thanks to rapid improvements in treating the virus, many people with the disease can live normal, healthy lives with intimate relationships for many years after diagnosis.
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- Marriage and Dating. (2010, 11 Oct). U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. Retrieved June 14, 2013 from http://aids.gov/hiv-aids-basics/staying-healthy-with-hiv-aids/friends-and-family/marriage-dating/.