Kristy provides support for pregnant and laboring mothers and for transitioning families after the birth of their baby.See all posts »
There are many ways we can shut down in birth or tune out. Tuning in can be harder, more challenging and even scary. It is different for each person. There are so many factors that contribute to how we feel about birth and how we approach birthing. Do some work during your pregnancy to really search out how you would like to birth and what it all means to you.
During your pregnancy, take the time to practice breathing with your baby and feeling the movement of your breath in your body. Visualize yourself laboring. See yourself giving birth and holding your baby afterward. If you feel fear, work through it by journaling, talking to your partner, a friend or a professional. Let yourself release some of the fears or anxiety of birth by working it out physically as well. Try taking a yoga class at least once a week. Go walking and swimming regularly. Take a pregnancy belly dancing class or pregnancy dance class. There are so many different ways that movement can help us work through fear, tension, anxiety and pain.
To help release and reconnect to your inner being and to your baby(s), try things like sitting and listening to your breath, having a conversation with the baby inside you, meditating, lying in a restorative yoga pose for 10-20 minutes a day, shutting your eyes while you soak your feet and feel all the stress melt away, laughing daily with your children, friends, partners and family or letting yourself cry loud and long. All of these things can help you find your power and strength by accessing the nuances of your body during this journey. All of these things can help you believe in yourself and that you can birth your baby(s). Take the time to find some things that work well for you and help you to stay present. Don’t give up if one or two things don’t feel right. Keep trying new things until you found your way to release, empower and tune in.
Be an active participant in your birth whether it is your first, second, third or even your eighth. Educate yourself on the options available to you for labor and delivery. Find a doctor or midwife that really supports all your needs and respects you fully. Having a Doula and a good support team can help you be able to relax enough to stay focused, enjoy the process, feel more comfortable and less pain, be able to be more present with the birth and your baby(s). Tuning in is enhanced with the right support. We find a safe place to let go and be in the full experience of birth when we know we are well taken care of and supported.
One of the greatest things that come from the experience of birth is the power you find within yourself to do it and the amazing joy and pride that you feel after you have done it. The more present you are in your labor and delivery whether you are medicated, giving birth naturally or having a cesarean section, the better you will feel after your birth; creating a closer union with baby. When we tune in during labor it helps us to go more deeply inward and not only connect with our bodies but also with our babies. Moving with the rhythm of our breath as we labor and breathing “with” our babies helps us to find more ease in the process and hopefully bond more deeply with baby through the experience. This ability to be present can be life altering.
You can do this. If you are pregnant, you all ready are doing it. Now just believe that you can find ways to make it easier for you and more joyful. Go ahead, tune it!