Perimenopause: The Problems are Obvious, but the Answers Aren’t
I had the good pleasure of connecting with an old acquaintance recently, someone I’ve known for close to 40 years. He is an entrepreneur who has a coaching business and website, among many other business ventures he’s been involved in for many years.
He reached out to me because some of his coaching clients are middle aged women. They are also going through perimenopause, and as many women do, are having a very difficult time. He wanted to talk to me about it in hopes of finding some insight, and perhaps some answers to the questions that these women often ask of him.
As we chatted, I was struck by a few things. First of all, that these women were so desperate for help and answers, they were willing to dump all of their hormonal misery on this man, who, although he is quite wonderful and kind, is not a physician and does not work in the medical industry.
I’m not sure what this says exactly, except that at the very least, these poor women want answers and help so badly, they are willing to turn to anybody to get it. Second, the questions he wanted answers to and clarification for, are the same issues which come up in my dealings with women in perimenopause all the time:
- I feel like I’m going crazy
- I had blood work done, but my doctor says it’s “normal”
- I’m in my 40s, but my doctor says I’m too young to be in perimenopause
- Does perimenopause cause marital problems or increase divorce rates?
- Why do I feel so sad and grief stricken all the time?
I’ve written extensively on these topics over the years. So much so, I sometimes feel like I’m repeating myself ad nauseum. I mean, just how much more can I talk about something without it becoming a tired, boring topic?
Well, apparently, a lot more.
But continuing to simply talk about it is not enough in my opinion. At my core, I’m a pragmatic problem solver – at least, I like to think that I am – who wants solutions and answers to problems and questions that plague me. I believe that every single woman who is going through perimenopause wants answers and solutions, too. They’re just not getting them.
Of course, saving the world and solving everyone’s problems is a full time job. I’ve yet to meet anyone who has been successful at it either. But it’s clear to me that I’m not talking about these issues too much. In fact, I probably need to be talking about them more. Of course, I also need to be working equally as hard to find solutions and answers too. And I will.
I think this conversation was just the reminder I needed that these issues continue to be a problem for women, and that somebody, somewhere, needs to find some solutions.
I’m on it, ladies.
Magnolia Miller is a certified healthcare consumer advocate in women's health and a women's freelance health writer and blogger at The Perimenopause Blog.