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Menopause, Fibromyalgia & Me: The Journey Begins

A road sign that reads You know how sometimes in life you have these great moments of insight into your behavior and you realize (usually much to your chagrin), that perhaps you may not have it together as well as you think you do?  Like, maybe, you’ve been living in the fog of denial? 

That happened to me today.

As I previously promised myself (and you), I pulled out the book, The Mind-Body Mood Solution by Dr. Jeffrey Rossman, PhD, this week, to begin my 2013 fibromyalgia self-healing journey, which I’ve been talking about doing for the last couple of months. 

Yes, it has really been that long.

I flipped it open to the “Readiness Assessment” section to, well, “assess my readiness” and to establish a baseline from which to work from in the program. The first section assesses your eating habits, which apparently, I had already answered some time ago.    


Okay, so here’s the deal: I’m a former athlete. I was a formidable competitor back in the day when I ran long distance, rode my bicycle daily, worked out with weights, and never put a thing in my mouth that wasn’t brown, grainy, or non-sugary. In modern day vernacular you could say I was a “beast.”

But that was 25 years ago. 

However, those self images must have remained with me throughout the years I guess, so when I sat down to take the nutrition assessment test for the first time, I was still (in my mind anyway) living in the 1980s. 

As I glanced over my previous answers to questions like:

  • I almost always eat a healthy, well-balanced, breakfast, lunch, and dinner
  • I usually eat a healthy midmorning and mid-afternoon snack
  • I do not skip meals
  • I rarely overeat

I had one of those lightning bolt moments. What was I thinking when I originally wrote those answers; that I was still 30-something years old and an athlete? It was humbling. 

The only answer I gave that was even remotely close to reality is that I “strongly agree that I’m looking forward to making dietary changes that may help improve my health.”  My answers to the exercise and sleep readiness assessment sections were actually more accurate. 

So, who knows what I was thinking when I filled out the section pertaining to my eating habits, because the truth is, frankly, they suck.

I don’t eat breakfast every day. And I’ve even been known to (like just a few days ago) fill a bowl with a heaping portion of left-over Christmas Trifle, and have that for breakfast, with a half a pot of coffee. 

Did I really just say that out loud?

Well, “they” say that in order to make meaningful changes in your life that you have to hit rock bottom – or something like that. I like to call it having a “Come to Jesus Moment.” I definitely had mine this morning.

My journey to wellness and healing from fibromyalgia is obviously not going to be an easy one. I rather knew that going in. I wish I could just blame it all on menopause and hormone imbalance, and call it a day. But I can’t. I’ve got some serious work to do.

As I’ve told you before, I won’t be posting weekly blogs about it, more like monthly. But, I’m committed to this process, and I will definitely keep you abreast of my progress (or even lack thereof). I reached the point where I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired, and that’s enough motivation to get this party started.

My first challenge is going to be cutting out white sugar (God help me now), and eating a healthy breakfast. Every. Single. Day. Please join me on my journey. 

I will even give you permission to laugh at my pain and suffering if it helps to ease yours for just a day.

Magnolia Miller is a certified healthcare consumer advocate in women’s health and a women’s freelance health writer and blogger at The Perimenopause Blog.

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Magnolia is dedicated to empowering women to take responsibility for their own health.