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Trusting the Process
It's with great gratitude that I say farewell for now (from this site anyway). What a great opportunity to reach out to all of you and help support you on your journey through pregnancy and parenthood. You have been so gracious.
Pregnancy is such an amazing time that is filled with so many emotions. We tend be have days full of joy sprinkled with some challenges. Some days the discomfort, fears, and challenges may be more than expected; more than a sprinkle. It's all normal. Remember that it is temporary. The same with parenting. It has so many joys as well as trials. Allow yourself to go moment by moment. Take your time to reflect on what is important to you, what you want for your birth and baby and what type of mama you want to be. Trust the process of birth as well as parenting. Let it unfold naturally.
I hope you continue to find inner strength as you birth your baby(s) and parent them. Continue to find ways to empower yourself and find your voice. Your pregnancy, birth, and postpartum needs are unique. Make sure they are attended to with mindfulness, flexibility, expertise, respect, and loving care.
Some important things to consider and remember once baby arrives:
- Be in the NOW. As you make your way through parenthood, do so slowly. Listen to your breath as you go about changing, feeding, and caring for baby. Try and stay present with baby to hear his/her cues as to what he/she needs. Trust your instincts. They speak louder and more true than anyone can tell you.
- Sleep when baby sleeps. Sounds cliché I know, but is more important than you realize. Let go of your to-do list and agendas for now. You will heal more quickly and feel more able to conquer challenges that come along when you are well rested.
- Delegate things that need to be done to family and friends for the first few months and just rest and bond with baby. There are no expectations, no judgments. Let your family and friends know that there is no visiting in the first few weeks especially. You need their help and need to rest while they take over the list of chores ( such as watering plants, grocery shopping, cooking a meal, walking the dog, doing laundry, doing dishes and even holding baby while you sleep).
- Join a moms/parenting group. Becoming a part of a playgroup can really help you feel "normal" and help you to share your experiences with other mothers/parents to know that you are not alone in what you are going through. It's also nice to just make new friends for you and for baby.
- Take time for yourself. Do things that nourish you and help you feel all around healthy and grounded. Even 15 minutes a day all to yourself can make a big difference.
- Plan dates with your partner. In the early stages when you are not ready to leave baby it might mean having a picnic in the backyard, a spa night at home trading foot massages and back rubs, or a much needed nap together followed by a good cuddle session or a relaxed hike locally with baby in tow to enjoy nature together.
- Stock up on meals before baby comes or arrange for meals to be delivered by family and friends or by a meal service.
- Find reasons daily to be grateful. Use them as mantras to remind yourself of how blessed you are. It will help you to be a more joyful mama.
Enjoy the ride. Embrace the journey. Live in bliss!
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