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Getting It All Done
Today was one of those days that seemed to drag slowly on. I couldn't seem to get myself motivated enough to finish any one thing completely. There's something very unsettling about having so much undone. It's one of those weeks where there is so much happening, so much to do and so little sleep had to help me do it all well. While putting the baby down for his morning nap I had the thought "I could just fall asleep right now for hours," but then I realized I still have my three-year-old to take care of, a workload waiting for me, and appointments to meet.
We all know that getting little sleep really can mess with you. I don't do very well when I'm so tired. Who does? It's hard to concentrate on the whole picture, which is why writing things down for me is so important. I'm one of those people that needs to make notes, lot's of lists and even though I put my calendar events in my phone, I like to write them out and see them all in front of me. Otherwise I tend to feel too scattered.
When you have three children to take care of, a household to manage, work to get done, clients to support, classes to teach, volunteer work to accomplish, projects to tackle and a marriage to nurture, it doesn't leave you with much time to reflect, relax or do anything for yourself some days. I'm getting better at recognizing where my challenges lay and how to make life easier for me and my family. The days that I am really good at this I feel really grounded and balanced. Those days I am well rested (mostly), have had some good self nurturing and love from my family and have eaten really healthy, taken my vitamins and gotten in some form of exercise.
It's also a matter of formulating a plan, writing it all out, and finding a realistic way to make at least most of it work. This is where 'letting go' comes into play. Categorizing things in order of importance and making sure I am at the top of that list is the first order of business. Then finding what things to shave off at the bottom of the list and redistribute them throughout my week to make it all come together well. It has to be doable without adding excess stress. There will just have to be times when the dishes go undone for a few hours, the floors need to wait a few days to be washed, even a play date or volunteer job will have to be rescheduled. The thing is to find what is important , what helps you and your family thrive and be content and what helps you to function optimally.
Of course sleep is at the top of the list. Hummm... someone please tell that to the baby.