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Dancing with Depression
Dancing with Depression

Adrienne Santos-Longhurst is a health and relationships writer with a special interest in depression thanks to her own firsthand experience. She’ll share everything from her difficult diagnosis to how she learned to take the lead and dance with depression for the last 15+ years. Get ready for a wild and equally informative ride!

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Antidepressants and Low Sex Drive: Just Do It

Antidepressant medications are known of robbing a person of a normal, healthy sex drive. Depression blogger Adrienne Santos-Longhurst offers some tips to keep your mojo flowing.

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A couple in bedThis is not a promo for antidepressants or sex or even Nike—though I do thank them for the awesome slogan! This is some straight talk about antidepressants and the havoc they can wreak on your sex drive and some advice from a bona fide sex writer (yes, I am a woman of all trades) on how to not let your prescription rob you of your sex life.

If your depression hasn’t taken a toll on your desire in the bedroom then you can bet that your antidepressant will. As effective as they are in treating depression they are notorious for sucking your libido dry—no pun intended—and leaving you feeling anything but sexy. So what is one to do when the last thing they feel like is sex? I say: JUST DO IT!

I don’t need to tell you that sex is awesome. It feels good, is loads of fun, and is good for your health and wellbeing. As a matter of fact, studies have found that sex can have a positive impact on depression and the symptoms associated with it, such as having a relaxing and calming effect, improving mood, and pain relief. A recent study at the State University of New York has even found that semen has similar effects on women as antidepressants do! And no pressure, but sex is also important to your relationship, if you’re in one.

Still not inspired to just do it? Then here are a few ideas that might help get you in the mood. Now, refrain from blushing and if you’re someone who falls to the, well, more prudish side of the spectrum, then you may want to skip down to the end of this post or step away and think about where your hang-ups come from and then revisit the post when you’re ready. *wink*

Ask Your Partner For A Massage

At the very least you’ll enjoy a little relaxation and some quality time with your partner; though very few can ever stop at just a massage. And may I recommend a warming or tingling oil to help things along? They’re easily found at the drugstore in the condom aisle and can be used on the entire body. Wink-wink, nudge-nudge!

Indulge in Some Naughty Reading

If Penthouse Forum isn’t exactly your thing then give erotica a try to help get the juices flowing. Thanks to Fifty Shades of Grey, reading erotica has managed to become just mainstream enough that you don’t need to be embarrassed hitting up your local bookstore for some literary smut!

Watch Something Sexy

I know that everyone’s idea of “sexy” and “acceptable” is different, so choose something that does it for you whether it’s watching full-on porn or simply putting on a film starring the likes of Clooney or Pitt.

Indulge in a Little Self-Lovin’

You can say you “don’t do that” all you want, but the reality is that everyone will masturbate at some point in their lives and it’s nothing to be ashamed of. If the pressure to get in the mood for your partner is too much, then spend a little time…er…with yourself. Being alone with your own fantasies and doing what feels good will get you in the mood and ultimately help you have a more fulfilling sex life when the time comes. What’s so wrong about that??

I hope these tips help or at least get you feeling a little less hopeless in the intimacy department. Depression already manages to rob us of so much joy; don’t let sex or your relationship become another. 

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Adrienne is a health and relationships writer with a special interest in depression.

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