Dad First, COPD Second
Dad First, COPD Second

Elizabeth provides support, insight and guidance for caregivers.

Latest Entries
  • Oct 12 2012

    Protecting Dad's Lungs from Fall Chills

    I’ve literally got my father’s back. It’s that time of year again when getting dad to wear warm clothing is like convincing a child to wear a hat in a snowstorm. When he was first hospitalized for pneumonia several years ago, it was summer...

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  • Oct 10 2012

    Behind the Wheel with COPD

    The other day my mother asked me to drive. I took a quick step and got into the driver’s seat. My father went with the flow, but I know he wanted to drive. Once I set up the GPS destination, he preoccupied himself by chatting with the GPS, sayi...

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  • Oct 05 2012

    Why COPD Makes My Dad Eat Like a Child

    Over the past few weeks, my father has had to change his eating habits. During lunch and dinner, he was experiencing increased shortness of breath with every bite. An avid eater, he is a stickler for savoring a good dish. He tells me freque...

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  • Oct 03 2012

    Smoker's Denial

    The other day, I reconnected with John, an old friend from my grammar school – St. Bernard’s – in what is now the revamped Meatpacking District in New York’s West Village. This blog brought us closer, sharing our challenges and coups as care...

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  • Sep 29 2012

    Quitter's Flu

    Go on, you can "aw" for my dad. I already have. The night before last, it was the second time in a week that he awoke in the middle of the night complaining of stomach pains. For my mother and I this is a major red flag. Each of his COPD hos...

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  • Sep 26 2012

    How My Facebook Friends Quit Smoking

    One of the great things about social media is how instantly we connect. It never ceases to amaze me when I receive feedback from my blog posts.The best is when you support dad and me to carry on as he struggles to be smoke-free. And so I ded...

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  • Sep 21 2012

    My Father May Ask You for a Cigarette

    Yup, my father was smoke-free for six days, lighting up on the seventh. The difference is that he is smoking only one cigarette a day. For him, this is big. Huge, even. As for me, I'm supportive. I’m not nagging. I’m not controlling his ...

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  • Sep 14 2012

    Six Days Smoke Free, Take Two

    Take two. As you read this post, dad has officially made it to six full days without smoking...again. Today he asked me, “You don’t happen to have any cigarettes hidden in your room, do ya?” “What?” I replied. I don’t smoke. He knows that. Af...

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  • Sep 12 2012

    Handling Dad's "Out of Breath" Attacks

    I recently joined the National Family Caregiver Association’s group on LinkedIn. I asked which topics they’d like covered in upcoming posts, and one of the members, Jacqueline, who connects caregivers with resources in Prince George’s County, M...

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  • Sep 07 2012

    Keeping Up with Chores and COPD

    I always know when dad is washing dishes. In fact, so do the neighbors. A loud clanking noise emanates from the kitchen which is almost always accompanied by his just-as-loud complaining. He hates doing household chores, and with his COPD, e...

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About the Author

Elizabeth cares for her mother, a diabetic, and for her father, who suffers from COPD.