The topic of how to effectively communicate with your healthcare provider is just a minor part of a larger movement in healthcare called "Healthcare Consumerism". I would suggest you all go to this URL
http://fardj.prblogs.org/2007/01/30/grand-rounds-319/ to read an interesting Grand Rounds on the topic.
I appreciated that they mentioned this blog - "Cancer treatment and Survivorship" - within Grand Rounds.