A Book I Won't Be Reading
Wednesday, April 04, 2007
Nancy L. Brown, PhD
I read a very disturbing article written by LJ Anderson in my local paper recently, about a new book by Miriam Grossman, MD, a staff psychiatrist at UCLA, and author of "Unprotected: A Campus Psychiatrist Reveals How Political Correctness in Her Profession Endangers Every Student."The article painted a picture of universities permeated by open sexuality endorsed by administration, where young co-eds are suffering the consequences of hooking up by getting pregnant and sexually transmitted infections, as well as suffering from loneliness, anxiety, and heartache caused by their chaotic and empty relationships. All of this trauma is due to the vulnerability of women and a misconception that promiscuous behavior is a way to fit in, and a culture that dupes women with the fraudulent ideology that they are like men, and can appreciate sex without commitment.
The solution to this "sex without consequences" mentality is of course, waiting and finding a partner who has also waited, I assume until the average age of marriage in the United States, which is currently about 28 for women and over 30 for men.
As if that was not enough, the article also states that HIV is transmitted only by anal sex, shared needles, or having a sexual partner who does those things - clearing the way for teens and young adults to live in denial about their own risk for HIV.
I am sorry, but in this day and age, blaming our culture and women for the misery, and completely ignoring the role of sexuality education from schools, parents, and the community is just insulting!
Related Previous Posts: Relationships & Sex in the 21st Century, HIV & Teens, Teens & Sex, Abstinence only vs. Sexuality Education
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2 Comments:
At Wed Apr 18, 09:05:00 AM 2007,
Anonymous said…
Hm, where does a guy start? Well, just to set the stage; I am a midwestern male of the mid-1950's style. Grew up in the free love and smoke of the 60's. Raised 4 kids in the "me" generation. Am now enjoying the grandkids.
First off, I perused a few of your writings so as to get a "flavor" of your thinking.
You seem to present a situation, throw out some facts to support your side of the argument, denigrate men and then end your tome with bewilderment.
Your articles, "Loose Women on Campus" and "A Book I Won't Be Reading" both have the sexist remarks that men can enjoy premarital sex without commitment.
Yes you are right. There are men that have those proclivities BUT, not all men are like that. And you ASSUME that there is some underground social order that pushes that agenda for all men. In some parts of the country or social class...MAYBE. But those of us that grew up in a religious home and were taught the finer princples of social justice AND how to treat other people; we don't subscribe to that abyss of a moral code.
Even though I grew up in the 60's and believe that each and every person is a special entity...I can see that we are reaping the FRUITS of the 60's.
"Hooking" up is one of those fruits. Having casual sex without (supposed) consequences is one of those degradations of moral conduct. That's why you are seeing girls that are "...devoid of pleasure" and are cynical and depressed. Good candidates to become that "bag and cat lady"!
Just thought you would like to hear from a different side of the fence. Sometimes hearing a new voice helps to redirect your own energy. Have a great spring!
Steve
At Wed Apr 18, 01:09:00 PM 2007,
Nancy L. Brown, PhD said…
Thank you for taking the time to share your feelings Steve! I really appreciate your perspective and actually agree with much of what you say! In fact, the two authors I refer to do seem to have some sexist things to say about men, and thank goodness all men are "not the same." I completely agree that parents can encourage respectful, protected, and consensual sex by providing information and values that support healthy sexual behavior! Thanks for sharing!
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